Position: Two individuals, not involved in trying to straighten out their relationship, sitting in a dyad.

Instruction: One partner says directly to the other, "Tell me who you are." Other instructions to be used are, "Tell me what you are," "Tell me what life is," "Tell me what another is."

Reception: The one receiving the instruction accepts it from the one who has given it, and begins contemplating.

Contemplation:

1. Actuality: the contemplator first gets a sense of, in this case, the actuality of who he or she is, in the moment;
2. Intention: the contemplator then intends to directly experience, in this case, that actuality of who he or she is;
3. Openness: while continuing this intention, the contemplator remains open to a direct experience of who he or she is, and to anything else that may occur in the mind, emotions or body as a result of this intention.

Communication: the contemplator then gets across to the listener whatever occurred as a result of contemplating, trying not to leave anything out or add anything.

Listening: the listener watches, listens and tries to understand, without commenting, nodding or evaluating in any way.

If the gong technique is being used, the contemplator repeats the process of contemplating and communicating, keeping a rough balance of time spent in each, until the five minute gong sounds.

Acknowledgment: the listening partner then says to the contemplator, "Thank you," acknowledging the contemplator for his or her response to the original instruction.

Change-over: the roles reverse. The former contemplator gives the appropriate instruction to the former listener.

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